Kim1989 is right. There is nothing wrong with you. If you would like to orgasim without drinking, let me suggest that you get really comfortable with your partner and try to do all the things you do when you are drunk. Keep trying...it can happen for you!!!
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Q: I am able to get aroused at just the sight of my boyfriend and when I am touching/kissing him. But during foreplay, I cannot get an orgasm when he is fingering me and licking my clit, nor am I able to achieve one when he penetrates me. I do get aroused, but no orgasm. I even have trouble getting off when I masterbate that way. But I get extremely intense orgasms that I never ever had before just from him rubbing the outside of my butt cheeks. He is able to make me scream his name, and it's like I can never get enough. I had eight orgasms in a row the last time!!! This just blows both our minds. He said he has never known a woman in his sexual past to achieve an orgasm that way. It was the first time I ever had an orgy. He and I both thought the only way for a woman to achieve orgasm was for him to be inside me. Although it's absolutely wonderful I found a way to achieve an orgy, it frustrates me that I can't achieve the same feeling the normal way. He says I get wetter than any other woman he has ever been with and because of that he comes too soon, which makes it more difficult for me to achieve an orgy the normal way. Is there any other woman on here that has been in the same situation? I just wonder if there is something wrong with me, or am I normal, just different?
A: As you know every woman is different. maybe you need more stimulation while YOU are doing it!!! Have him suck or play on ur breast while you play with yourself. Almost as if your havind sex but your not. As wet as you get during sex is as wet as u should get by yourself. Get into it more really try to feel it. Do not concentrate on an orgasm. You state that when he rubs (like as in rubbing ur back???) your butt u have an orgasm... R u having an orgasm or are you just feeling intense sensations??? Do you come that way too?
A: Yes, he rubs my butt just like he would rub my back. When he rubs my buttcheeks, I feel aroused in my clitoral and vaginal area. The more he rubs, the more aroused i get there. Yes, I truly do get very intense orgasms, and I am able to ejaculate that way. I don't know if it is a psychological or physiological thing, but I think it is unusual to achieve orgasm without him being inside me.
Q: i am 32 weeks pregnant and i am having orgasms in my sleep in my dreams i am afraid that this will cause me to have a miscarriage or go into labor are orgasms safe while pregnant ..?
A: Orgasm can spur contractions, however, doctors tell women to not engage in sex at certain points during pregnancy more due to the cervical issue. Sex, checking of the cervix, etc. can all lead to labor. But what can you do, you were asleep. And unless you've been told that you have a pregnancy restriction from sex, none of it (including orgasm) should be a problem. good luck
A: Don't worry nothing will happen its normal
Q: Hi everyone. I am 35 years old. And I never ever had this 'problem' before. It's one thing to have 2 orgasms in a row. but sometimes I can have as many as 5 or 6, once I had 10. but only if I am pleasuring myself, never with my husband. Even so, this is not a good thing. . I find it very weird and disturbing, it's as if my muscles are I don't know, still tense and need a release? and after about the second one, it gets pretty annoying, and not even enjoyable anymore. This pretty much happens every time I masturbate , which is really not that often. I haven;t had a chance to talk to my OB/GYN about it yet. The reason I am so concerned is because while I don't think it is normal, I've seen a show on TLC called Taboo where woman had this similar problem, (only much worse) And she was diagnosed with something, I forgot what it was. Is there something wrong with me? This is not a joke. Please, I need some answers..
A: Multiple orgasms can be normal. I can have however many in a row as I want when I'm by myself or, provided my partner lasts long enough, with my boyfriend. As long as you are stimulating the orgasm in some way or another, then it would be normal. The urge would be hormonal in nature typically. If it's just happening even without stimulation, I would look into it.
A: I would say that it's not normal, however I don't think it it's bad either. I know the episode on TCL toy ate taking about. I would just talk to your on/gyn about it.
Q: I know once you start getting older the strength of your orgasm-ing can decrease, but I'm only 17 and my orgasms are so pathetically weak its depressing. I've tried all kinds of stimulation but nothing give me that 'mind blowing' feeling that is supposed to come from an orgasm. It's almost as if once I start coming close to having an orgasm my body just shuts down. It's like I skipped all the sensation and went straight to the calm after effect. The build up is amazing but no matter how close I get it just....stops randomly. I've read that it could be a hormone imbalance, but I have plenty of testosterone. I just..don't get it. Help?
A: Hi...I know it's a bit late but if you aren't still around maybe my response will help someone else. I experienced the exact same thing you are describing only I'm 47 and I've always had fantastic orgasms. That is until menopause started. It was so depressing. It was so bad I finally went on hormones. After just one estrogen pill my orgasms improved 80%! I'm hoping after some more time they will go back to normal. The problem therefore could be your estrogen levels not testosterone.
A: My girlfriend has the same problem, coincidentally she is 17 too. Its frustrating for me cause out of no where she decides to stop n says it feels weird to keep goin. She also said the same thing happens when she masturbates. it seems like she's getting close then it just ends.. idk what it is. its not my size and she is very aroused during sex
Q: Ok so im 20 yrs old and have been sexually active for 4 years and have never had an orgasm during sex unless the cl** is stimulated (right word?) and Ive been with the same guy now for 2 years and I feel bad because I have to fake it for him. I dont want to tell him for fear of bruising his ego. Is there something wrong with me ?
A: I think you need to get a vibrator and explore your own body so that you can find your spots. I am 19 I started having sex when 17 I've only had two orgasm by men.. But today I bought the rabbit vibrator and I had two orgasm... Well anyways I think once you knw what you want it'l be a lot easy. Especially once ur g spot is found.
A: I am a 36 year old woman and I have had the same boyfriend for ten years.Out of that ten years only three of the years I have been able to have full course orgasms. I really enjoy having sex and would like some answers as to why I don't have orgasms any more.
Q: Is there any difference in how an orgasm feels after having a partial hysterectomy? I have read that some women have clitoral orgasm and some have orgasms from their uterus. Have also read that having a hysterectomy can make a difference in some women. Suggestions?
A: Just like belle10, I also experience multiple orgasms (both clitoral and vaginal) since my hysterectomy. Sex has never been better for me.
A: I have experienced multiple as compared to just the usual one,lol!. This has happened several times now.
Q: I am a 45 year old man and Have orgasm that are complete duds. Everything up to the orgasmic point is fine but the orgasm itself brings no satisfaction. Can it be fixed?
Q: Ok - my girlfriend and I are having a discussion. She seems to think that she's experience what she calls 4 orgasms in a row... although she denies any clitoral involvement. I on the other hand can only orgasm with clitoral stimualation, and have NEVER experienced more than 1 orgasm at a time, as I am soooo sensitive after my orgasm. What is the deal with female orgasms? Are there different levels.... variations...?? Any help to answer our questions would be great!
A: I am 59 years old and can still have very intense orgasms with contractions. I can have C, G, and V spot gasms. In fact, I have been having orgasms since I was 10 years old when some of my friends started masturbating. Have never tried A spot; heard it was fabulous; however, it is not my thing. I am horney all the time; and must get relief at least 3 times a week. In remote spas in the Alps, wealthy older women can get messaged to orgasm; that has been a fantasy of mine. My hub keeps promising it as a gift. My 50 year old hub needs intercourse once a week. Whoever says older women have no libido has not met my younger hubby and me. I have heard women can have orgasms in their late 80s and beyond; basically all their lives; and for many women; sex and orgasm get better with age.
A: I would consider that a multiple,usually what happens to me is I get more clitoral orgasms, than vaginal, usually the vaginal comes after a few clitoral,you will know when you get a vaginal orgasm, They are more of a stronger feeling,than clitoral, you will be on top of the world after one of them lol, I mean its more of a slower and long lasting feeling than a quick feeling of clitoral, by the sound of things your man knows what he is doing, have fun and enjoy. Sandy. Just to let you know I usually have orgasms right after each other , usually 2-4 within 10 mins, then I get the vaginal near the end. Once you get a vaginal orgasm, you will want more.
Q: I have a very healthy sexual relationship with my fiance... a bit odd, but amazing nonetheless. But for some reason, my reactions during sex vary. I understand that hormone levels change, but I see no direct pattern. In the last six months, I have experienced something I never knew existed... "multiple orgasms" Just right after another, usually right before or while he orgasms himself. And the feeling itself is euphoric. Has anyone else had any experience with this? How can you keep them coming more constant? I can't find anything on it about controlling them.. If you know of any articles online or find something about how to maintain them, that would be great! ...I figured I'd ask an upbeat question among all of these health scares and lighten the mood, by the way. =)
A: Ohh beleive me multiple orgasms are for real. I expeirence them quite often when my boyfriend fingers me. Once I get one orgasm, they just keep flowing out one after another. I one night literally had 7 in a matter of an hour it would have been 8 but it started hurting. As the matter of controlling them, ummm I really don't think you can. I really don't get orgasms with sex that much, if I get 1 orgasm out of 4 times, then I'm pretty lucky as most women don't get orgasms through sex that often. So consider yourself lucky to be able to have multiple orgasms. And yes you are correct that our hormone levels change throughout the month, so sometimes sex is better and sometimes worse. Take care.
A: I have a similar situation! Believe me I am not complaining...for a little while I thought there was something wrong with me, like why was I having so many? I have been unable to count on two hands the number that I get in a given hour since me and my boyfriend of 1 year started having sex. It is anything but a problem, except that I push for sex more than he does! LOL! I thought guys were supposed to be the horny ones lol...
Q: I've never had a real orgasm before. I have had little orgasms with a vibrator or through masturbation, or even when other people have stimulated my clitoris. I've had these little orgasms from touching and oral sex. I climax, it feels good, and it's gone in a flash. However, I cannot seem to have an orgasm via G- Spot. The last time my boyfriend and I had sex was months ago, and I couldn't follow through due to the EXTREMELY INTENSE sensation that I had to pee. I am somewhat notorious for having a weak bladder, or peeing A LOT. Even when I do pee before sex, I still get the strong urge that I have to pee during. I've heard that this is just the beginning of an intense orgasm, and that it could be a good thing. Even so, I cannot get myself to let it happen, and always feel the need to stop and avoid the embarassment that would accompany peeing all over Matt, my boyfriend of 3 years. He encourages me to press on, but the fear of peeing is so strong that I have to stop. Any advice on how to over-come this? I truly want a REAL orgasm.
A: I have the same exact situation! quite literally. try kegel, pelvic, and lower ab muscle exercises to strengthen your muscles and prevent any accidents, and if it really worries you try to not fluids water for a long time before in addition to peeing right before. Also, no caffeine. If you let yourself try but are still unable to orgasm, perhaps it is simply not for you- many women cannot or have not orgasmed via penetration because of discomfort or a weak bladder, but don't give up. In addition, trying positions where you have most control may help you to feel more confident in controlling your functions. At worse, it may be only psychological, which i doubt, or weak muscles at the bladder neck, which can be fixed by a minor operation. Just some suggestions.