Bleeding during and swelling after sex

I am 17 years old. Have been with only one partner. We have had sex 4 times, and he has fingered me a few times. 3 out of the 4 times that we have had sex I've bled. I've also bled while he's fingered me. After sex, I'm swollen for a few days. It burns when I urinate and when I sit down or apply pressure to my vaginal area. The pain subsides and the swelling subsides after a day or so, but it is quite an inconvenience. We use condoms. The sex is kind of rough, but it doesn't hurt during. He's pointed out to me that I bleed, otherwise I wouldn't know. He has been with other partners, but has been tested for STDs and STIs and is clean. At first, I wasn't concerned because I was new to sex and thought that it was just my body getting used to it. But now I'm a little more concerned. I'm thinking that it might be more serious, but I can't go to a doctor because I don't want my parents to know that I am sexually active.

you have nothing to worry about!! :) i'm 20 & it happens to me too. with him being your first & not having dont it so much it is very normal, your body isnt use to sex & even though ive done it with more than one guy, it still happens to me. atleast he's been tested! & the reason you bleed is because its friction & once again your body isnt use to it. if he's being too rough tell him.

That takes a load off of my mind. Thank you. I was looking at other posts, and they were starting to scare me. Is there a way to get used to sex quicker? I'm impatient and don't want to bleed every time. Oh, and he's not being too rough.

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